Sliding from text to full-blown reality

(Subject: the first second of the LIP syndrome, and how to skip-it...)

Here's the thing,

- Text allows us to be smart, playful, and distills the best in us.
- Live, In Person (LIP), however, is a different story, it is all of you, and all of me (for the sake of this post)

No undos, no total control of what you are, 

Also, imagination is a powerful deceiver , we weave letters and words and give them form, shape, smell, movement and rhythm, we hear the sound of the person on the other side, etc.

And man, the clash between this and any reality can be brutal. right?

Right, but it doesn't have to.

The thing that produced these images exists.

The one in front of you produced the words, your mind produced the rest, it is all there.

So far the poetic part.

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Now for what I do....

(meditate with me...)

I take all the softness/ sharpness/ tenderness/ flow the words arrived with and consciously give them form...

I throw the form of a lovely lady my mind has generated, and replace it by...

the form of an old man in unwashed clothes and alcohol breath. (example)


Now I step back (ooh, the things your mind can do...) and see if I want to talk to this creature, if I would welcome an exchange, spending an hour to link to the thing that generated the texts I connected to.

If yes, easy-peasy (lemon squeezy?) - no image can disappoint me, and I am ready for the soft transformation of text to a fuller being with no landing-shock, no disappointment-in-first-sight.

And If not?
hmmm...

Two wolves in my apartment

Q: when I enter the apartment, which one do I see?

- Order with some mess in it.
or
- Mess with some order in it.

This may drive the direction toward order (or mess) more than the actual apartment's current state.

(Thoughts of a zen and messy bachelor...)



* inspired by this story.

The slow dating manifest is born

After ages, and as a birthday present, I started dating (OK-Cupid, a free and generous site) and it's oh-so-fun,

But...

- It seems like everyone is so careful and picky and in a rush and, and...
- When you meet someone, you are already thinking
   - is s/he THE ONE? (potentially)
   - should I dump the wo/man in front of me and move on?
   - do I really want to have sex with this thing sitting in front of me.
   - etc.

And we breath so much stress into the situation, we forget we are alive.

Hence, here is a proposed manifest of the slow-dating movement:

The slow dating manifest:
1. I hereby declare I am currently communicating with 3-4 lovely human beings. (thru chat/ phone/ video/or LIP (live, in person)
2. Since I can't remember so many names, I am unavailable except for urgency. (if you think you are EXACTLY the one for me, tell me, otherwise, breath...)
3. I don't expect anything but to enjoy the thing we have now, I am not (or intend not to be) stressed to find the person who will resolve my problems, I am fine with what is.
4. I am loyal and truthful, I won't cheat, or hide, or lie, or pretend (to the best of my ability)
5. From experience I know any relationship may evolve (grow/ change/ shrink/ die)
6. I treat the one in front of me as a whole

If you like it, sign it in your profile

as
- Be aware: I am a slow-dater (*), I am looking for a human connection, which may/ may-not evolve in the future to more.
- I am currently in a contact with (state the count) nice people of the fe/male gender, and it is a plateful.
- If you like the slow dating movement, feel free to use it in your profile.

(*) you will actually have to write this mambo jambo (web life isn't easy...)
<a href="http://goo.gl/FQ7Md6">slow-dater&trade;</a>


Anyone ready to sign? (*)

And as a thank-you for your patience, an ear candy...

"you may say I'm a dreamer, 
  but I'm not the only one.
  I hope some day you'll join us,
  and the world will live as one"


(*) If you connect to the idea, leave a comment! (even anonymously), so people will not feel they are the only ones who get it. :)